In ancient tribes, not a single African woman in her 40s will lament over sagging breasts and the leader of the tribe about gray temples. Body obsession and camouflage of “flaws” are an absolute property of our century.
How did we become perfectionists and what ideal do we always strive for?
How a whole team of specialists works on the construction of the building – from the architect to the engineer and contractors — and the published photo in the fashion magazine is the result of the work of a team of professionals: art director, stylist, makeup artist, model, photographer, and retouched. But the paradox is that the glamorous gloss shows us that ideal, which does not exist in nature. A generation ago, the average model weighed 8 percent less than a normal woman. Now, this number is 23 percent. Models, singers, media personalities are thinner than 90 percent of women on the planet.
It is not surprising that now almost every second woman is dissatisfied with her appearance and figure. And the feeling of oneself, as you know, is directly reflected in all areas of life.
And even if you don’t look in fashion magazines, it’s enough just to take your phone, open Instagram and a million beauties with graceful proportions, long legs, thin waists, clear cheekbones, and snow-white smiles look at us from the tape. Genetics, gym or just a good photo processing? Progress has come to the point that with just a few finger motions absolutely anyone can become tanned, slender, radiant. It just becomes indecent to look different. What to hide, by clothes they have met, are being met and will be met. But if everything is in equally beautiful dresses, how much do you want to put on the same?
As soon as something becomes mass, it decreases its attractiveness. If you constantly chase after external ideals, you can spend in pursuit of a lifetime. It is important to be able to value and not be shy about what makes you different from another 6 billion people, which makes you unique. Your smile, mole on the cheek, hump on the nose, dimple on the chin. Each person has his own unique design, created by the most important world architect – nature.
The ideal figure by today’s standards is a win in the genetic lottery. And if you are not so lucky as the Victoria’s Secret models, do you need to grieve all your life?
Pay attention to what makes you. And do not forget, in addition to the outer shell, we have a huge, deep, uncharted ocean – the inner world. Who lives there? Multi-colored talents, big and small ideas, thoughts of various shapes, interests, dreams, personal experience. Surely in this ocean, there is kindness, sincerity, care. It clearly floats love and joy. No mobile application, no photoshop filters, and even the best plastic surgeon on the planet can add these qualities. How beautiful our soul is, only you determine. If in your words and actions others see the light of inner beauty, then it overshadows the external flaws.
There can be different trends in fashion – puffy or thin lips, round or sharp faces, thick or rare eyebrows, but there will always be a fashion for health and inner beauty.
And let’s stop talking to ourselves about various nasty things, saying, “I’m terrible, fat” and all that jazz. With such thoughts and your face, you will always be sour and inhospitable and the desire to eat a loaf will appear more and more often, because already fat, there is nothing to lose.
Try the next exercise.
Replacing negative settings
Look at yourself carefully and look for 15 reasons to compliment yourself. It can be anything – facial features, body, hair, look. Write them in a notebook and constantly re-read.
Each time you go to the mirror and want to throw some nastiness into your reflection, take a deep breath in and out gently tell yourself 5 compliments. Sincerely, wholeheartedly and wholeheartedly.
Exercise must be performed until the desire to say unpleasant things disappears.